I wasn’t sure I was going to share this, but this a blog for me to look back on what has happened in my life……so
I hate a date this weekend!! I “met” him through eHarmony last year. He decided to respond to a year long message I sent him. My nerves were crazy and I was so excited to met him.
Friday night I got dressed up and headed to our local Starbucks for coffee. He was 10 minutes late and I was 10 minutes early. That is how our date started. He doesn’t drink coffee and I really didn’t think that my stomach (nerves) could take a cup of coffee, so we drank water at Starbucks and sat and talked. It seemed to be the happening place for first dates. There were two others meeting there too. I knew there were issues when I wanted to swap my date for this other girls date. LOL
I felt really cute with my NEW HAIRCUT and my skinny jeans, high black boots, zebra top and long gray sweater. I sent Mama and Mrs. McG my outfit to make sure I was fine. They liked it. He did too.
After we sat and talked for about 30 minutes he asked if I wanted to go get something to eat. Sure, on our way across the parking lot to Chili’s, he mentioned something about going Dutch. I didn’t catch that I thought. When we sat to eat, the waitress got our drink order. That is when “T” mentioned to the waitress, “Oh, separate checks please” Oh, I thought, that is what he meant by going Dutch. What the freak? I didn’t know guys did that when they asked a girl out on a date. I was embarrassed to have a guy do that in front of the waitress. When she looked at me, it was like “I’m sorry.”
My nerves were still shot and with the whole, going Dutch thing, I decided to get a cup of soup. He got soup and salad. We ate and talked and at some point I was thinking that on a job interview. It was when he interrupted me by leaning forward, placing his hands on the table and saying “Melissa, I like you. Let’s go out again.” WHAT?
I got out of it Saturday, by working out, cleaning the house, washing all the clothes I could find that might be dirty AND going Thanksgiving shopping.
So, today is Sunday and I head to church. I can’t even begin to tell you how amazing our church service was. We have had a series on Faith. Today Pastor Eddie wrapped up the series and I just sat there amazed how, when you ask God for an answer to a specific prayer, he will answer you. Quick answers have never been a thing that God seemed to do for me. But today, I sought him concerning “T” and God sent me the answer. He is not the one for me. No, not because he didn’t buy my supper, no not because he was 10 minutes late, but I am not sure that he even wanted to be my friend. He wanted me to be his wife….and right now.
After making a mistake with my ex-husband, I can’t go through that again. The next man I marry has to be the man that God has for me. He has to be my friend first. Someone that I want to get to know, hang with and do things with and I felt God say, you can accept counterfeit blessing or if you are patient, you can wait for the real blessing. They both are blessings, but the counterfeit blessing if not the blessing I have for you.
I texted him when I got out of church and told him that I didn’t think that I wanted to continue seeing him. I thanked him for meeting with me on Friday night, but I didn’t want to see him again. I prayed about the message I sent and tried to do it with heart and love.
He was upset and didn’t understand even asking if I had someone else I was seeing Ha, little did he know that he was the first guy I had been out with in 12 years. And I wouldn’t even count that time 12 years ago as a date. He was upset and I felt bad, but at peace.
I would encourage you tonight to look for your blessings that God is sending you. Accept them and thank him, but also have discernment about them and don’t accept counterfeit blessings.
On a lighter note, while shopping on Saturday night I came across TurDucHen. Really, it was in a box stuffed with what looked like stir-fry, so I guess it was a Asian Big Easy TurDucHen. ROFLOL Not what we are having for Christmas. It’s a good old free range turkey for us.
Tonight I got to do a little Christmas shopping with The Boy and we met The Girl for supper. It was such a great time to sit and talk with them and just relax.
So, it’s Thanksgiving week and the family is coming in Wednesday night for Thanksgiving. Then I am heading back to ATL to help sister put up her Christmas tree and decorate. It’s going to be a full weekend and I can’t wait.
So, tonight I’m thankful for answered prayers and a great Pastor that is not afraid to preach the word of the Lord.